A Little More Social by Nicholas Epley

A LITTLE MORE SOCIAL is a new book by Nicholas Epley (Mindwise) where he explains “How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection.” Epley is the John Templeton Keller Professor of Behavioral Science and faculty director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He argues that we should not allow fear and myths to keep us from reaching out more to others, pointing out that if we work on changing our often overly pessimistic expectations, introverts and extroverts alike can benefit. Instead, Epley encourages readers to treat beliefs as “bets” or “guesses” rather than certainty and he discusses the rejection theory videos of Jia Jiang who invited rejection with outlandish requests in an attempt to overcome his own fear. Several other chapters of A LITTLE MORE SOCIAL deal with choosing Thankfulness, Kindness, and Honesty. Overall, Epley cites numerous experiments and research in an effort to convince people to be a little more open and he tries to offer specifics, but changing a mindset is difficult and it would help to have more recognition that not everyone has his capacity to reach out.  Notes, related commentary, and an Index comprise roughly thirty percent of the text. The video below is Epley’s Ted Talk: “The Simple Habit for a Happier Social Life” and conveys many of the ideas in his new book: 

David Brooks interviewed Nicholas Epley at a Family Action Network session on May 21 and that video will be posted shortly on their website. A favorite quote? They referred to the idea that “everyone you ever meet knows something you don’t.” A motivator like that may encourage readers to modify their own routines.