Take Care of Them Like My Own by Ala Stanford

TAKE CARE OF THEM LIKE MY OWN by Ala Stanford, pediatric surgeon and founder of the Black Doctors Consortium, deserves a wide readership. It is a fascinating tale, although there could be some triggering due to the discussions of child abuse. Stanford embraces her life story (subtitled “Faith, Fortitude, and a Surgeon's Fight for Health Justice”) and relates it in great detail. Clearly, Stanford confronted prejudice and discrimination throughout her pioneering and remarkable career. She comments on biases in the medical system, including a lack of “generational knowledge, kind of like generational wealth” and relates numerous shocking (to me) instances such as when a supervisor torpedoes Stanford’s chances at a future placement by outright lying about her. She is an accomplished, inspirational fighter, and I hope that many readers locate TAKE CARE OF THEM LIKE MY OWN. It is well-written and an engrossing read. Book Groups could consider promoting it with the newly published Lovely One by Ketanji Brown Jackson.

But What Will People Say? by Sahaj Kaur Kohli

In BUT WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY? Sahaj Kaur Kohli, founder of Brown Girl Therapy, shares her own journey as a child of immigrants, a college student, a victim of sexual assault, and a therapist. This is a very powerful text which explores “Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love, and Family Between Cultures.” In a dozen chapters, Kohli writes movingly about topics like “When Things Don't Go According to Plan” (or Reflecting on your achievement behavior); “Where Do My Parents End and I Begin?” (or Learning about boundaries and your values); and “Getting Out of My Own Way” (or Combating self-sabotaging behaviors and mindsets). She points out that “one in three freshman college students (worldwide!) struggles with mental health issues… my struggles were due to a combination of what I call the three E's -- the need for external permission, emotional immaturity, and an expectation of exceptionalism.” By combining her own experiences and therapy training, she offers prompts and insights to both students and parents (e.g., “I wish they would have asked: What can we do to help you? What do you need from us? I wish they would have approached this with: We don't understand, but we're willing to try.”).  An extremely useful guide, especially for older teens, their parents, and mentors. 

My Side of the River by Elizabeth Camarillo Gutierrez

MY SIDE OF THE RIVER by Elizabeth Camarillo Gutierrez offers a unique, although sad at times, perspective on being the child of immigrants. Gutierrez is a talented writer quite capable of evoking emotion. For example, it was difficult to read about the nights her parents worked as janitors at a movie theater and brought her (then a young toddler) and her infant brother to that work so the children could sleep and be safe. She chronicles her adventures through grade school and high school – including the absence of her parents for much of that time due to visa restrictions. While sharing her efforts to help a younger brother, this entire story poignantly highlights taking privilege for granted. MY SIDE OF THE RIVER deserves wide readership and discussion, perhaps even as a one library-one book or one school-one book program. I also hope that efforts will be made to advocate that this title (a painful “mirror” for first generation Americans and an informative “window” for others) be included in high school state reading award programs. The publisher has made a series of discussion questions available. Highly recommended.

It could be interesting, for example, to contrast this text with others about overcoming obstacles for economic opportunity in the United States like Class by Stephanie Land or with another (although much longer and more analytical) newly released text about immigration called Everyone Who Is Gone Is Here by Jonathan Blitzer, a staff writer at The New Yorker – that also has a memorable, beautiful cover.  

Rising Class and It.Goes. So. Fast

RISING CLASS by Jennifer Miller profiles “How Three First-Generation College Students Conquered Their First Year.” The names of these real life students are Briani, Conner, and Jacklynn and the first two attend Columbia University in New York while Jacklynn attends Ozark Technical Community College. Briani is from a small town in Georgia and Conner and Jacklynn, a long-time couple, are from Missouri. By sharing details about issues like financial strains and family addiction, Miller poignantly points out “the gulf between … [first generation] and so many other students. They all lived on the same campus, but they didn’t live in the same world.” Professional reviews suggested this text for students in high school (ages 12 to 18 or in grades 10 -12), but I am honestly not sure how much they could relate since they have not yet been to college. However, they could definitely learn from these experiences and perhaps better formulate questions and criteria related to their own future college choices. Educators, too, could benefit from reflecting upon these students’ concerns and Miller’s extensive reporting. Brookings published a report (8/21) on transition programs between high school and college which outlines their mixed success in preparing students. And Miller notes that in Fall 2019, “roughly a third of college students in the United States were first-generation.” Given more recent mental health crises, it is clear that even more support is needed. 

A related text, told from a parent’s perspective, is IT. GOES. SO. FAST by Mary Louise Kelly, an accomplished journalist and cohost of NPR’s All Things Considered.  She subtitles her non-fiction text “The Year of No Do-Overs” and appeared last month on the PBS NewsHour Bookshelf to discuss this memoir. Kelly reflects on balancing work and motherhood, particularly during the year when her oldest son is a senior in high school and about to dramatically change family dynamics. While Kelly’s stories (e.g., simultaneously getting on a helicopter in Baghdad while taking a call from the school nurse about her younger son being ill) may be more dramatic than what most parents face, the conflict between work and family will certainly be familiar and readers will find Kelly’s writing to be engaging. IT. GOES. SO. FAST received starred reviews from Booklist and Publishers Weekly. 

Although this text centered on older, high school age children, childcare – availability, quality, cost – in America and around the world (particularly due to COVID’s impact) continues to be a major issue and deserves more attention. The World Economic Forum published this report about a year ago and looks at the gender gap in pay as well as the “motherhood penalty.” Pew Research also recently (5/23) complied some perspective on motherhood.