Dyslexia Unlocked by Natalie Brooks

DYSLEXIA UNLOCKED by Natalie Brooks is written for adults and is intended to provide guidance on “How to be successful in work and life.” Brooks is the Founder of Dyslexia in Adults and she herself has dyslexia and ADHD; she shares numerous personal stories of the frustrations she has experienced, particularly in the workplace. I liked that she points out that dyslexia can really be different for each person and that she has made a great effort to provide information clearly, often summarizing and then restating her points in more detail. For example, she writes about “The three areas that every dyslexic needs to focus on in order to achieve success. These are 1) unlocking dyslexic confidence, 2) unlocking dyslexic strategies and 3) unlocking dyslexic strengths.”  The book is organized around those three needs, but I found the initial section on confidence to be a bit disheartening since it documents so many potential negatives. Granted, this seems to be a well-intentioned attempt to convey that millions of people (other dyslexics) are all in this together and therefore some of the examples (push vs pull on a door) may seem familiar to readers. However, she also points out “You need to spend time valuing and focusing on your strengths” and it may have been more helpful to start there. She does suggest a few useful resources (e.g., Grammarly) and provides sample wording to talk about dyslexia at work.   

Other excellent resources for people who wish to learn about dyslexia are Overcoming Dyslexia by Sally Shawitz (a classic) and The Dyslexic Advantage by Brock L. Eide and Fernette F. Eide. Both seem to be much more research and science based than Brooks’ work; also, the Eides generally take a very positive, encouraging approach. Younger students will appreciate titles like Meet the Dyslexia Club by Margaret Rooke. Check them out.

Dad Brain by Darby Saxbe

DAD BRAIN by Darby Saxbe describes “The New Science of Fatherhood and How It Shapes Men's Lives.” Saxbe, a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Southern California, splits her book into two sections: the Science of Fatherhood and the Practice of Fatherhood. It’s truly interesting to realize that Saxbe is “one of the only researchers in the world to have collected longitudinal neuroimaging research on men as they become fathers,” due in large part to the limited research on men as parents. Still, she points out how fatherhood can benefit society, partners, children, and the men themselves, thanks especially to greater social connection and opportunities for improved mental health. Frequently showcasing a collection of related facts, Saxbe points, for example, to research that shows younger-looking brains for both fathers and mothers and describes some theories as to why this greater cognitive functioning occurs. She offers suggestions for several areas of additional research, and I look forward to seeing more from her. An Appendix with suggested resources, plus an Index and Notes comprise close to twenty percent of the text. 

Read an excellent overview of Saxbe’s thinking in her recent opinion piece at The New York Times: “Ultimately, the traits of a good dad are also the traits of a good man: strength coupled with a willingness to look out for the young and vulnerable, to teach but also listen, to lead by example, to tackle daunting challenges and to persevere with grit.” Happy Father's Day to all!!

Mom Needs A Moment by Cassidy Freitas

MOM NEEDS A MOMENT by Cassidy Freitas explores “How to Stop Your Reaction Before It Starts... and Become a Calmer, Happier, More Connected Parent.” Dr. Freitas is a licensed family and marriage counselor and host of the weekly Holding Space podcast. In chapters titled Traumas and Triggers, All the Feelings, Being in the Moment, etc., she writes here about emotions related to being a parent, especially a Mom. Freitas is excellent at describing the range of reactions: “A hypervigilant part trying to anticipate every need before it exploded into chaos; A perfectionist part desperate to keep it all together; A wounded part still aching from past moments when asking for help led to disappointment or shame. ... All I knew was that I felt broken. And alone.” Admitting her own concerns and needs regarding motherhood, she writes about magic in the margins: “These are the spaces where your body can exhale and you can come back to yourself, where you can remember that you don't have to live in constant reaction mode, that you have choices. … They allow me to slow down, to notice, to be present.” In a calm and helpful way, she offers insights regarding the difficulty of changing patterns based on generational cycles that show up in everyday parenting. Understanding her audience, she provides notes at the end of each chapter, with “major themes, tools, and actionable next steps described.” Reading MOM NEEDS A MOMENT will benefit Moms, caregivers, and grandparents alike. 

Everything Changes Everything by Lauren Kessler

EVERYTHING CHANGES EVERYTHING by Lauren Kessler is a memoir which covers “Love, Loss, and a Really Long Walk.” Kessler, an award-winning author and teacher, shares the emotional story of the assisted suicide death of her husband and the overdose of her daughter a few months later. These heavy topics are treated reverently and insights conveyed poignantly through beautiful writing:

“I can, ever so hesitantly, every once in a while, sit across from a friend and let them in on a sliver of my life. But I can't turn my head on the pillow at night and talk to the person who knows me as much as I have ever let anyone know me.”

“WIDOW. WINDOW. I am not trying to be clever. I'm saying that widowhood is a window. Looking through it, you can view, assess, learn from, cry over, laugh about, regret, celebrate - everything - a marriage that was, the relationship that helped define you for decades. Falling in love is easy. A long marriage is hard.”

Referring to her husband and their children: “I have a past that does not include him. They do not.”

“…so much a part of who I am, and who I will ever be. I am walking through the world with them and without them. There is no denouement. The story continues.”

Kessler intersperses flashbacks about her family and feelings with the story of her walk along the Camino Francés, an ancient 500-mile pilgrimage route between Spain and France. At times a physically challenging route, this endeavor (requiring about a month to complete) allowed her to spend time alone, to observe nature, visit picturesque villages, and meet new people – essentially an opportunity to reflect on her life before and in the future. Kessler writes about “a lesson of the Camino that translates directly to life: that occasionally and gloriously, there are true aha moments, but mostly there is the long slog toward making sense of who you are.”  Along the way, she quotes Mary Oliver (“When Death Comes…”) and comedian George Carlin (“I want to live my life backwards…”).

I would also highly recommend The Salt Path by Raynor Winn and Memorial Days by Geraldine Brooks; these, too, deal with time spent in nature and self-reflection while facing the loss of a spouse.

The Things We Never Say by Elizabeth Strout

THE THINGS WE NEVER SAY is the latest novel by award-winning author Elizabeth Strout (Olive Kitteridge, My Name is Lucy Barton, and more). Once again, Strout offers readers insight into the thoughts and feelings of a “regular” person: in this case, fifty-seven-year-old Artie Dam who is married to Evie with one son, Rob and teaches high school history classes where he impacts the lives of students like Danny Marino and Rhonda Lazarre. Strout writes, “all of us live with a huge blind spot before our eyes, meaning that no matter what we think we know we can never fully understand how we appear to others.” This is a bittersweet story which explores themes of loneliness, sadness, compassion, perspective, inter-connectedness, and, overall, the secrets we keep. There are several upheavals in Artie’s life and one in particular leaves him feeling “as though he had lived these many years looking at things from one angle, and now it was as though someone had turned him partly in a different direction and everything - everything - looked different.” Both melancholy and hopeful (“it was a private thing to be alive”), THE THINGS WE NEVER SAY received a starred review from Booklist.

The Queen's Coronation by Jennifer Ryan

THE QUEEN'S CORONATION by Jennifer Ryan (The Kitchen Front and more) is a work of historical fiction set in early 1950’s Britain. Based in large part on reminiscences from her grandmother, Ryan has written numerous books set during WWII and I would recommend those over this latest. Here, readers will again find women building a community and supporting each other, but this book seemed to focus more on their problems and to be more repetitive than Ryan’s other novels. THE QUEEN'S CORONATION is still a good story involving Caroline, an assistant dresser to the Queen; Lucy, a beautiful aspiring singer who is taken advantage of; and Miranda, a self-centered, independent newspaper woman. Because of events in their pasts (an out of wedlock pregnancy, potential for stepparent abuse; and widowhood), each of these women struggles with her own feelings of inadequacy. Whereas Ryan’s books are often more about a group of women actively encouraging each other, this one seems to focus on the individual plights and the unhappiness and abandonment faced by Caroline, Lucy, and Miranda. Earlier works are more uplifting; this one compensates with some “inside” details on the coronation and the young queen as she, too, copes with 1950s gender stereotypes and expectations.

The Hardest, Longest Race by Eric Moskowitz

THE HARDEST, LONGEST RACE by Eric Moskowitz takes place in 1909 and describes “Henry Ford and the Cross-Country Contest That Changed America.” Through daily accounts of the Ocean-to-Ocean Automobile Endurance Contest, Moskowitz transports readers back to time when automobile was a novelty and paved roads and signage did not exist widely. It was amazing to imagine having to traverse the continental US (a daunting three week and 4,106-mile trek from New York to Seattle) while needing local human guides because maps and directions were so incomplete. Ford entered two cars in the race and had an obvious advantage (how was that fair?) due to his nationwide network of dealers and his company further flaunts the rules, resulting in a scandal. The other three contestants were the Shawmut Roundabout, Acme, and Itala, names we no longer associate with automobiles. At that time, there were roughly 250 companies vying for car sales to early adopters. For perspective, about one in 500 Americans owned a car; in 1909, over 18,000 Model Ts had been registered and the $850 cost (compared to $4000 for some luxury brands) was equivalent to about $30,000 today. Moskowitz, a former columnist at The Boston Globe, does his best to intersperse personal details about the drivers and navigators in this story, using primary sources like their letters and contemporary newspaper accounts (an extensive list is acknowledged in Notes). Still, I found it helpful to read THE HARDEST, LONGEST RACE in parts as it is difficult to maintain excitement and interest in a literal “slog” (oh, the mud!) from point A to point B. There were many, many people involved, and Moskowitz includes an Epilogue to explain what happened to them. A helpful Index is also provided.