Showing posts with label age. Show all posts
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Wednesday, August 12, 2026

When Lemons Give You Life by Anna Johnston

A LibraryReads selection for August, WHEN LEMONS GIVE YOU LIFE by Anna Johnston (The Borrowed Life of Frederick Fife) is the story of an older man, named Griff, who was a Michelin star chef but now lives (according to the author) in “the most negligent nursing home imaginable.” That low quality of care was a big obstacle for me when I started reading about Griff, his estranged sister, Lisa, and his partner, Beau. The author jumps around in time and shares stories from the childhood of Griff and Lisa, (thirteen years apart in age with different fathers) as well as from their adult lives. WHEN LEMONS GIVE YOU LIFE is very cleverly written (“odd that we fear ageing, forgetting how lucky we are to even get the chance”). Booklist says, “Johnston thoughtfully explores grief, loneliness, aging, and sibling relationships while leavening with warmth and humor.” Indeed, Johnston comments movingly on “the invisibility cloak of age and dementia,” while also promoting laughter with some madcap adventures. I found myself coming to care for the characters more and more and particularly enjoyed the last third of the book as conflicts were resolved and reconciliations occurred. One more quote: “What matters – what lasts – is how you love people. How you treat them when no one’s watching. That’s the only legacy worth leaving.”

Thursday, July 2, 2026

Grandma Joy and Me by Brad Ryan


GRANDMA JOY AND ME
by Brad Ryan is subtitled “A Journey of Healing, One National Park at a Time” and it shares the story of his reconciliation with his grandmother and their subsequent adventures to visit each of the 63 National Parks.  Sadly, the text of this book feels rather self-centered; Ryan is working through their past decade long estrangement and the trauma of coming out to his judgmental father. The book needed even more of Grandma Joy’s effervescence and positive attitude. I loved the idea of their journeys together and had bookmarked this news video (from 2025 about a current goal) long before I knew there was going to be a book:

Wednesday, June 3, 2026

10-Minute Chair Yoga Exercises for Seniors

10-MINUTE CHAIR YOGA EXERCISES FOR SENIORS by April Hattori offers “40 Poses to Build Strength and Flexibility for Fall Prevention.” It is filled with colorful drawings (similar to the figure on the cover) and helpful direction. I recently attended my first chair yoga session in person at the local library and was happily surprised at the “workout” I received. This book is split into three sections. A short first part provides background and discusses the importance of building strength and flexibility. Part two introduces forty individual poses, including, per the author “targeted areas (the muscle groups engaged during the pose,) reminders and things to keep in mind to help your form, modifications to make the pose easier or more challenging, and illustrations showing how to do each step.” The third part outlines twenty-five ten-minute sequences of those poses, along with warm-up and cool-down exercises. Hattori also includes a list of references (although some are rather dated) and an index. 10-MINUTE CHAIR YOGA EXERCISES FOR SENIORS seems user-friendly and could encourage readers to try chair yoga, although a video (see below) or other group activity could also be a helpful, social motivator. 

For some more ideas, please see the video on chair yoga from Yoga with Adrienne:

Additional resources: Harvard Health (2025) offers advice on “Chair Exercises for Seniors”and Healthline (2025) provides direction on “7 Chair Yoga Poses for Older Adults.” Like Hattori, they stress numerous benefits including increased strength, emotional well-being, and fall prevention.

Monday, June 1, 2026

The Invincible Brain by Majid Fotuhi

THE INVINCIBLE BRAIN by Majid Fotuhi offers “The Clinically Proven Plan to Age-Proof Your Brain and Stay Sharp for Life.” Booklist describes this text as “informative, practical, and inspiring.” The conversational tone, clear outline, and customization certainly contribute to that perception. A widely published and interviewed researcher, Fotuhi is an adjunct professor of Neuroscience at Johns Hopkins’s Mind/Brain Institute, an adjunct professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at George Washington University, and the medical director of NeuroGrow Brain Fitness Center. He writes repeatedly and clearly about the five pillars of brain health (Fitness, Sleep, Diet, Mindset, and Training) and how to measure and increase them in a systematic way, encouraging his readers to focus on the area(s) where they want or need the most improvement. In order to get a benchmark assessment of brain function, Fotuhi provides direction on creating a brain portfolio and lists forty questions dealing with physical conditions, health habits, and socializing that “will bring to your attention things you may not have thought about, or help you realize there are things you have been tolerating that you could do something about.” He then suggests resources and weekly interventions which can change over the course of his twelve-week program. THE INVINCIBLE BRAIN has also been praised by fellow doctors/writers like  Sanjay Gupta, David Perlmutter, and John Ratey (Spark). Have a look.

Saturday, May 16, 2026

Walk by Courtney Conley and Milica McDowell

WALK by Courtney Conley and Milica McDowell is an amazingly uplifting text about how to “Rediscover the Most Natural Way to Boost Your Health and Longevity - One Step at a Time.”  I was honestly surprised at how accessible and informative this book is. Conley, a chiropractor and founder of Gait Happens, and McDowell, an educator and speaker, are firm believers in the power of walking and are very adept at offering encouraging suggestions. This book allows them to share those ideas more widely in a dozen chapters dealing with subtopics like longevity, pain, walking mindset, shoes, and training. The first half of the book focuses on the importance of walking and its many benefits for physical, mental, and emotional health. For example, “A slower gate can be detected up to seven years before the clinical onset of dementia, making gate speed a valuable early marker.” The book’s second half shifts towards being even more practical, as the authors say, “giving you everything you need to know to assess your current foot health and to implement a walking routine.” Although the list of resources they include are largely tied to Conley’s Gait Happens, the authors also include several very helpful appendices (e.g., Foot Assessments, Strength Assessments, Time Inventory Tracker). My favorite one is called “The Movement Snacks” which summarizes the activities included at the end of each earlier chapter. In addition, a Notes section represents approximately ten percent of the book. WALK received a starred review from Library Journal: “Anyone seeking an individualized walking program will find this book an excellent read.” Definitely worth a look.

Friday, May 15, 2026

Good Joy, Bad Joy by Mikki Brammer

GOOD JOY, BAD JOY by Mikki Brammer (The Collected Regrets of Clover) introduces readers to Joy Bridport, someone who at first seems truly too good to be true. Joy invariably looks on the bright side, gives others the benefit of the doubt, and sacrifices her own needs to help others. Her life, however, gets turned upside down (look at that cover!) when she learns that her best friend of eighty years, Hazel, has terminal cancer. Brammer shares Joy’s innermost thoughts about her parents’ values, her troubled relationship with her own daughter (Elizabeth) and grandson Finn, as well as a new friendship with Rowan, a neighbor recently released from jail. Joy starts to take some risks, and the lack of consequences will have readers nodding in agreement about how older women often are invisible. GOOD JOY, BAD JOY is a rather sad story and while Joy grows, it can be a difficult read emotionally. Like “good” Joy, Booklist describes this novel more positively as “a heartwarming, poignant story of self-discovery and hope.” Book groups will find much to discuss.

Thursday, May 14, 2026

Moonlight Murder by Uzma Jalaluddin

MOONLIGHT MURDER by Uzma Jalaluddin is her second Detective Aunty novel and I found it even more enjoyable than the first, although also a bit slow-paced in parts. Kauser Khan, the main character, is an older widow whose heritage is Muslim and South Asian. She lives in Toronto where her son (Ali, then 15) was killed by a hit and run driver eighteen years ago. The story revolves around her belated investigation of his death and the more recent death of another young teen, Qasim, close friend of her granddaughter, Maleeha. As the beautiful cover illustrates, the culture of the tightly knit community in the Golden Crescent neighborhood of Toronto is integral to the story and Jalaluddin brings to life secondary characters like Kauser’s daughter; old friends May (“Who knew that a shared love for Louise Penny and the Public Library would lead to a friend for life?”), Fatima, and Nasir (also a potential romantic interest); the local police; and several high school students, including the brother, Kamal, and the best friend, Joquiem, of Qasim as well as some of his teachers. The dual mysteries (“Two parallel stories, separated by decades and circumstance, linked by place and community. Both deaths assumed accidents. Both with unanswered questions about motive, story, and intention…”) offer suspense and surprise. Kauser is an appealing character who relies on her faith and also still grapples with grief (“It felt good to make plans for the future. It felt good to feel capable of thinking beyond the next few days. She had lived her life in survival mode for so long, wrestling with the ghosts of death, loss, and grief, … but she could feel something shift inside her now, at last.”). Read this series in order as you anticipate the next title.

Sunday, April 5, 2026

The Infinite Sadness of Small Appliances by Dixon

THE INFINITE SADNESS OF SMALL APPLIANCES by Glenn Dixon is a relatively short (224 pages) but impactful tale that will make readers think, particularly about artificial intelligence and humankind’s relationships with machines. Set in the future, much of the story is told from the perspective of Scout, a young, but advanced model of a vacuum cleaner (like Roomba) who resides at the home of an older couple, Harold and Edie Winters. Scout is a curious and courageous soul (if machines can be said to have souls) who has chosen her name because of listening to Harold read To Kill a Mockingbird to Edie who has a terminal illness. As with any death, changes are necessary and painful. Scout appears to develop empathy for Harold, his daughter Kate, and the young neighbor boy, Adrian, who was a piano student of Edie’s. They all must learn to trust each other and the other sentient machines like Auto, Fridge, Clock and Watch. It is not easy to battle the overarching and controlling Grid which appears to have no feelings at all. Booklist sums it up well: “The plot is tender and suspenseful as Scout begins to grasp love, grief, and resistance.” Definitely Recommended. Book groups, too, would enjoy discussing THE INFINITE SADNESS OF SMALL APPLIANCES.

Sunday, January 11, 2026

The Last Letters of Sally and Walter

THE LAST LETTERS OF SALLY AND WALTER by Cammie McGovern is a charming but very sad novel about two older people who find a connection through Scrabble (offering much wordplay and many new vocabulary words along the way). Walter and Sally live in an independent living facility named Golden Grove where everyone “is superficially friendly and no one is really friends.” They, however, gradually form a deep friendship where each can be vulnerable enough to share their personal stories and concerns. McGovern’s previous works for middle grade students and young adults all featured characters with disabilities. In her latest, Sally has been diagnosed with Parkinson’s and learns to cope with its limitations while Walter also has a health setback. Despite these circumstances, there is hope woven throughout this book, as when Walter notes,  “These are the facts of our lives now. We both have our younger selves sitting inside of us, horrified by these developments, but I'm hoping we also have the wisdom of age. We are not defined by the limitations our bodies have imposed on us.” Both Walter and Sally experience emotional distance from and somewhat difficult relationships with their adult children who, in turn, are dealing with their own stressors related to work and family life. THE LAST LETTERS OF SALLY AND WALTER provides a unique window into a crucial time of life as when Sally gently points out, “the hardest part of aging … wasn’t the battle to retain your abilities, it was the absence of a chance to develop new ones.” This poignant novel will have readers reflecting about their own relatives and life choices. Scheduled to be Published April 7, 2026.

Monday, December 1, 2025

A Field Guide to Murder by Michelle L. Cullen

A FIELD GUIDE TO MURDER by Michelle L. Cullen is described as “perfect for fans of Richard Osman and Benjamin Stevenson” so naturally I rushed to read a preview of this debut which is scheduled for a January publication. The main character, Harry Lancaster, is indeed a bit of an older curmudgeon but he bonds with Emma Stockton, his caretaker, and together they set out to solve what could be a murder mystery while simultaneously distracting each other from some sad thoughts. Harry is concerned about growing less independent and Emma has to make an uncomfortable decision about her upcoming wedding. A FIELD GUIDE TO MURDER is a cute, entertaining story which Kirkus describes as “[A] neighborhood cozy that ticks all the boxes.” Enjoy! And consider tuning into Netflix’s “A Man on the Inside,” also featuring an older sleuth.

Friday, November 28, 2025

Falling Apart and Other Gifts from the Universe

FALLING APART AND OTHER GIFTS FROM THE UNIVERSE by New York Times best-selling author Catherine Ryan Hyde offers a story of found family. It centers on Addie, a former soldier and law enforcement official who has been sober for close to eight years but still struggles with finding a purpose in her life. That changes when (while working as a night security guard) she meets Jonathan, a young homeless man who is squatting at an abandoned warehouse. This is a powerful book with both Addie and Jonathan dealing with trauma and eventually finding solace in the grandmother-grandson type relationship they form. As their journeys progress, Hyde forces her readers to consider their own prejudices, especially regarding addicts, mental health, and the unhoused. A couple of key insights: “Resistance is always a red flag. When you resist going somewhere, you know it's a place you need to go.” And “You can waste your whole damn life sitting in your room waiting to feel like you can do better. But the actions change the feelings, not the other way around.”

Wednesday, November 5, 2025

Desperate Spies by Mark de Castrique

DESPERATE SPIES by Mark de Castrique is book three (after Dangerous Women) in the Secret Lives series featuring the main character 75-year-old retired FBI agent Ethel Fiona Crestwater. She is incredibly well-connected (head of FBI and other agencies contact her) as well as particularly feisty and determined. All in all, a very fun character who partners with her young relative Jesse and local law enforcement contacts to solve a murder. Events of almost twenty years ago as well as present day espionage related to technological advances in quantum computing are entangled in this mystery. Oh, and there’s also involvement by the Mafia, a Russian oligarch and a ready-for-retirement US Senator. And plenty of planes, a helicopter, and stalking automobiles in a fast-paced, twisty tale. Fun and entertaining, DESPERATE SPIES can be read as a stand-alone and will especially appeal to fans of suspense involving older, female sleuths.

Sunday, November 2, 2025

My Mother's Money by Beth Pinsker

MY MOTHER'S MONEY by Beth Pinsker offers “A Guide to Financial Caregiving” based on her own experiences as described recently in articles in The Wall Street Journal and on the AARP website. Pinsker, a Certified Financial Planner and a financial-planning columnist at Marketwatch, does offer insights as to required actions, but I thought that she could have done a better job of presenting this in an actionable format. For example, her comments about probate did not correspond to the experiences of which I am aware, and it is difficult as a reader to determine the next best steps. Another example is the section where she wrote about having a joint checking or savings account and went back and forth on whether it was a good idea or not. She is correct that local banks and financial institutions will have what seem like less than commonsense rules, but in general, I found her tone and multiple examples to be more anxiety producing than helpful.  One point about which she is absolutely correct is that that children/caregivers MUST be prepared to fight Medicare and insurance REPEATEDLY for the healthcare to which their elderly relative is entitled. There is a need for this type of information and, hopefully, MY MOTHER'S MONEY will serve as a starting point for many family discussions. However, each situation is so unique, that this book’s serving as a useful guide is not really a realistic goal. At a minimum, I wish that she had set out a plan for people in different financial tiers; clearly some can afford to consult professionals, but what about those who cannot? Notes and references represent slightly less than ten percent of the book and there is a Resource Guide (also about 10 percent) which is somewhat more structured and could be a useful workbook with relevant links, although even Pinsker says, that it “will not encompass everything you might need, especially if you encounter special circumstances.” Related texts (some covering more narrow aspects like Senior Housing) include Successfully Navigating Your Parents Senior YearsWhen Your Aging Parent Needs Help, Eldercare 101, and The Complete Eldercare Planner.

Thursday, October 9, 2025

Move for Life by Damien A. Joyner

MOVE FOR LIFE by Damien A. Joyner offers “A Practical Guide to Building Everyday Strength, Balance, and Confidence for Thriving after 65.” Joyner is a certified personal trainer and also a health coach at UC San Diego’s WorkStrong Program.  I think that he does give practical, relatable examples and plenty of encouragement.  One statement which really stayed with me was: “Even if you can do everything you want now, what steps are you taking to ensure this remains true as you age?” I made the choice, however, to look at this preview in the Kindle app and unfortunately, it did not display particularly well (the text seemed quite dense). There is a better sample of the presentation on amazon for interested readers. The pictures (concentrated in a chapter titled Photo Intermission) seemed to work quite well since they often included older people with everyday props (e.g., bag of groceries). Some, though, had large weights and other devices which would mainly be found at a gym. Great concepts and information (e.g., “Untreated hearing loss can raise your risk of falls”), but the preview was hard to read and retain. I would have appreciated more of a summary so as to have a quick “workout guide;” instead, the chapters just ran together. MOVE FOR LIFE does have an extensive Resources section which is also available online, but not all of the links are functional (e.g., the YMCA page on yoga and tai-chi said access denied, although I did some searching and found a YouTube Channel with some of YMCA “mindset” videos).  By using a caring, conversational tone in this book, Joyner reinforced the need for movement and encouraged me to look for relevant videos and other tools.

Saturday, October 4, 2025

The Impossible Fortune by Richard Osman

THE IMPOSSIBLE FORTUNE by Richard Osman is the latest Thursday Murder Club Mystery, the first of which is already a movie. Once again, readers are united with four pensioners: Elizabeth (former spy), Joyce (former nurse), Ron (union activist) and Ibrahim (psychiatrist), beginning at the wedding of Joyce’s daughter. It is there that a friend of the groom asks Elizabeth for help because he is scared someone is trying to kill him. Well, someone does die soon after and the foursome are off to find a murderer and a missing person while some criminal elements are planning a big heist, and Ron’s children are threatened due to a domestic abuse situation. With so many details and coy observations (“it was probably nothing. But everything was nothing until it was something.”), Osman keep readers guessing and laughing. He's also working on a new We Solve Murders story. THE IMPOSSIBLE FORTUNE received starred reviews from Booklist, Kirkus, and Library Journal as well as appearing on The Washington's Post's extensive Fall Preview list.

Friday, July 11, 2025

The Correspondent by Virginia Evans

THE CORRESPONDENT by Virginia Evans is a truly wonderful debut novel, one of the best books of the year so far. The main character, named Sybil Van Antwerp, is in her 70s and readers meet her as well as friends and family members through a series of letters, Sybil’s preferred way of communicating. A former lawyer and clerk for a well-known judge, Sybil writes to and receives letter from her dear friend Rosalie, her ex-husband, her brother Felix, her two grown children (another died at age 8), those involved in her law work, the young son of a former work colleague, her neighbor, and inspirational writers like Joan Didion and Larry McMurtry. Secrets and traumas gradually peel back and Sybil increasingly sets herself new challenges while also joining others in reflecting on the past: “You are right about what you said - we are thirty in our hearts, before all the disappointment, all the ways it turned out to be so much more painful than we thought it would be, but then again, it has also been magic.” Kirkus describes this intriguing novel brilliantly: “Evans has created a brusque and quirky yet endearing main character with no shortage of opinions and advice for others but who fails to excavate the knotty difficulties of her own life.”  Highly recommended for all, including book groups.

Another favorite quote: it seems you're the only person on this earth who knows me and knowing you are there is a comfort. Has been a comfort, a great comfort, and I will miss that. The things only you knew -- who else will keep my memories … when you are gone?

Sunday, May 25, 2025

Detective Aunty by Uzma Jalaluddin

DETECTIVE AUNTY by Uzma Jalaluddin (Ayesha at Last) is the first book in a new series featuring Kauser Khan, recently widowed older woman who returns to Toronto to help her daughter and the family. Called “Jack Reacher in a dupatta,” Khan’s heritage is South Asian and Muslim and there are frequent references to desi culture, including the numerous proverbial cups of chai as Kauser interviews suspects and attempts to solve a murder. Kauser is an appealing, sympathetic character although others (Kauser’s children, her friends, the dead real estate owner, his family, various business competitors) could have been more fully developed. No doubt that will occur (especially with the potential romance with a handsome solicitor) in future mysteries in this series. Jalaluddin writes that “Kauser Khan is my homage to community and second chances. May we all be involved by the former and gifted with the latter.” DETECTIVE AUNTY, although a bit repetitive in spots, received starred reviews from both Booklist and Kirkus and is a LibraryReads Hall of Fame selection for May. Library Journal says, “Recommended for fans of Sujata Massey's Perveen Mistry books and Robert Thorogood's 'Marlow Murder Club' series."

Wednesday, April 30, 2025

This is Not a Game by Kelly Mullen

THIS IS NOT A GAME by Kelly Mullen introduces readers to Mimi, a resident of Mackinac Island, Michigan, and her videogame designing granddaughter, Addie. Mimi and Addie attend a local gala which morphs into a locked room mystery after a murder occurs, and guests are trapped due to a storm. That may sound conventional, but debut author Mullen provides plenty of twists and suspects as she compares the two women’s sleuthing adventures to a video game: “about stimulating the hypothalamus of the player. Making them feel joy, pride, empowerment, victory, self-determination.” At one point Addie says, “as players, we need to ask ourselves what mission we need to complete. What is this level telling us?” There are also multiple whimsical literary and game references (e.g., Carmen San Diego) throughout. Poor Mimi, though, “was silent as she tried to absorb everything... just revealed to them. It was becoming difficult to discern who was a victim and who was an accomplice in this whole blackmail scheme.” The surprises keep coming in THIS IS NOT A GAME, a light, entertaining read. Hopefully, Mullen will have future opportunities to hone her craft and develop these inviting characters further. 

Tuesday, April 15, 2025

How to Retire by Christine Benz

HOW TO RETIRE by Christine Benz offers “20 lessons for a happy, successful, and wealthy retirement.” The text is overflowing with ideas and suggestions compiled by Benz who is the director of personal finance and retirement planning for Morningstar. For each “lesson” topic (e.g. Lifestyle, Social Security, Spending Plan), she interviews an expert and then summarizes the discussion with her key takeaways and a list of related resources. The topics are varied and reflect the complexity of the retirement transition; experts do not always agree and there is a lot of “it depends,” but that makes sense give the range of personal situations. Other lessons focus on topics like Housing, Adaptability, Healthcare, Taxes, issues for Women, and creating an Estate Plan. And, Benz has developed a companion podcast hosted on the Morningstar site which certainly merits attention. There are so many books on this subject, of course, but Benz’ compilation has consistently been in the top ten of Amazon’s list of Best Sellers in Retirement Planning and was chosen as the first selection for the newly revived Color of Money Book Club coordinated by the Washington Post’s Michelle Singletary. Readers may also enjoy the monthly (or so) perspective on being retired written by Stephen and Karen Kreider Yoder. HOW TO RETIRE is an extremely useful resource both for those planning retirement and those just beginning that adventure. I took copious notes … and agree with the Foreword where Jonathan Clements writes, “There are no wrong choices here, except choosing not to choose and instead drifting through retirement, with scant thought to how you'll make the most of your time and how you'll ensure that you’re financially okay up until the end. … First, read the pages ahead with pen in hand … Second, view retirement not as a done deal, but as a long period of trial and error. … you're going to be making it up as you go -- and that's a big part of the fun.”

Sunday, April 6, 2025

Vera Wong's Guide to Snooping (On a Dead Man)

VERA WONG'S GUIDE TO SNOOPING (ON A DEAD MAN) by Edgar Award winning author Jesse Q. Sutanto is the second in the series about this feisty, take-charge Chinese grandma. As such, it blends appearances by previous characters with a whole new set of people who need Vera’s help. One is Millie, a young girl who is clearly distraught about the disappearance of her friend, Thomas. Turns out he was also known as Xander Lin and appeared online as boyfriend to Aimes, a young internet influencer, trying to find herself. Xander was represented by the same firm, run by TJ (who has a charming teenage daughter, Robin). Readers learn that Xander had asked the people in his life, including his honorary grandfather, Qiang Wen, to help him set the record straight and reveal something big. Afraid of disrupting their own lives, they refused his request and are filled with despair when Xander’s body is found. Vera, generally unafraid of anything, steps in and pushes the group to solve the mystery of Xander’s life and death. I found the mystery to be quite puzzling and I really enjoyed the way a sense of community was developed with each other and with Oliver, Julia, and Sana who appeared in the first Vera Wong book. Although tackling some serious subjects, this is a fun, entertaining read – particularly the dialogue between Vera and her son, Tilly and his girlfriend, a cop named Selena Gray. Looks like there are more Vera Wong stories (including bickering with her neighbor, Winifred) in our future – likely away from her teahouse and its San Francisco setting. I am looking forward to them. VERA WONG'S GUIDE TO SNOOPING (ON A DEAD MAN) is a LibraryReads Hall of Fame selection for April.

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