A Little More Social by Nicholas Epley

A LITTLE MORE SOCIAL is a new book by Nicholas Epley (Mindwise) where he explains “How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection.” Epley is the John Templeton Keller Professor of Behavioral Science and faculty director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He argues that we should not allow fear and myths to keep us from reaching out more to others, pointing out that if we work on changing our often overly pessimistic expectations, introverts and extroverts alike can benefit. Instead, Epley encourages readers to treat beliefs as “bets” or “guesses” rather than certainty and he discusses the rejection theory videos of Jia Jiang who invited rejection with outlandish requests in an attempt to overcome his own fear. Several other chapters of A LITTLE MORE SOCIAL deal with choosing Thankfulness, Kindness, and Honesty. Overall, Epley cites numerous experiments and research in an effort to convince people to be a little more open and he tries to offer specifics, but changing a mindset is difficult and it would help to have more recognition that not everyone has his capacity to reach out.  Notes, related commentary, and an Index comprise roughly thirty percent of the text. The video below is Epley’s Ted Talk: “The Simple Habit for a Happier Social Life” and conveys many of the ideas in his new book: 

David Brooks interviewed Nicholas Epley at a Family Action Network session on May 21 and that video will be posted shortly on their website. A favorite quote? They referred to the idea that “everyone you ever meet knows something you don’t.” A motivator like that may encourage readers to modify their own routines.

Lucky by Design by Judd Kessler

LUCKY BY DESIGN by Judd Kessler is subtitled “The Hidden Economics You Need to Get More of What You Want.” Kessler, Professor of Business Economics and Public Policy at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School, expounds upon his research about markets and scarce resources. Kessler spoke recently about his new book at a Family Action Network event. There, he explored ideas like getting a reservation at a popular restaurant or being admitted to an elite college. He indicated that it often serves one best to initially “settle for silver” to achieve a desirable outcome. Later, he stressed the importance of personal networking and signaling to the other side of a labor market or to a potential romantic partner that one is sincerely interested. Similar ideas are outlined in this text where, according to the author, “each chapter will provide guidance about how to play in certain types of markets and will arm you with a set of strategies to increase your chances of getting more of what you want from them.” In LUCKY BY DESIGN Kessler looks first at what he calls the three Es (having rules that are equitable, efficient, and easy). He then devotes chapters to different types of market rules: first come, first served; using a lottery; ranking preferences and so forth. While the findings are not especially surprising, this is an accessible text filled with multiple, everyday examples (like allocating household chores), often involving Kessler’s three children or the university academic environment with which he is most familiar. There is an excellent summary and an audio excerpt (read by the author) at the Next Big Idea Club website.

The Other Side of Change by Maya Shankar

THE OTHER SIDE OF CHANGE by Maya Shankar is about “Who We Become When Life Makes Other Plans.” Shankar is a cognitive scientist and neuroscience expert who describes the life altering changes faced by guests on her podcast. She notes that the book is “part narrative, and part practical guide, rooted in the latest scientific research.” Her first example (“Locked In”) involves Olivia Lewis who becomes paralyzed; it is reminiscent (as Shankar also notes) of events which impacted Jean-Dominique Bauby, author of Diving Bell and the Butterfly, as well as of Allison Pataki’s Beauty in the Broken Places about her husband’s unexpected health scare. Shankar notes how these individuals must confront what they have lost and then “experience an internal transformation that allows them to imagine new and freeing possibilities for themselves.” She also “shows how that sense of possibility can ripple outward” and includes an Appendix titled “Getting to the other side of Change: Your Change Survival Kit” where she summarizes key concepts (e.g., self-identity) from each chapter. Her bibliographic notes and references comprise an additional ten percent or so of the text. Shankar does an excellent job of weaving examples and research, but this is based on numerous conversations, sometimes covering years. I wonder how well a person in the midst of devastating change would be able to comprehend, digest, and implement (without professional guidance) the ideas from this book. THE OTHER SIDE OF CHANGE received a starred review from Booklist.

On a related note, I recently attended a conversation between Kelly Corrigan and Jennifer Breheny Wallace about Wallace's new book titled MATTERING. The event was sponsored by Family Action Network and a recording is available:

According to the publisher: Wallace argues that mattering—the feeling that we are valued and have the chance to add value—is a core human need, as essential to our well-being as food and water. ... MATTERING shows how lives are transformed when we are reminded, in small but intentional ways, that we are seen, valued, and needed. Wallace identifies the essential components of what she calls a “mattering core”: recognizing your impact, being relied on (but not too much), feeling prioritized, and being truly known and invested in. ... Wallace shows how to strengthen our own sense of mattering—and how to build cultures of mattering in our homes, workplaces, and communities—at a moment when it has never been more urgent.

Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin

VISUAL THINKING by Temple Grandin is subtitled “The Hidden Gifts of People Who Think in Pictures, Patterns, and Abstractions.” The best-selling author and speaker explores those issues as well as the many reasons to more actively encourage visual thinking skills. Grandin will be discussing her new book – in person and via Zoom – this Thursday, October 20 at Evanston High School during a program sponsored by Family Action Network. Details are here.  She is a professor of animal science at Colorado State University and has written extensively about animals and about neurodiversity; her memoir, Thinking in Pictures, was made into an award winning film. In this new text, Grandin contrasts those who think primarily verbally with visual thinkers, themselves further sub-divided into spatial (abstract patterns) and object (pictures/images) visualizers. Verbal thinkers tend to be more linear in their thought process while Grandin argues that visual thinkers are more associative and that society and our economy would benefit from valuing their technical skills more highly. Roughly thirty percent of the book includes references from researchers, behavioral scientists, engineers, social commentators, entrepreneurs, and educators. Look for VISUAL THINKING on the Library shelves and add what is sure to be a fascinating talk to your calendar now! 

Related text: Fixed by Amy E. Herman.

Get it Done by Ayelet Fishbach

GET IT DONE by Ayelet Fishbach offers “Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation.” To address this topic, Fishbach draws on her professional experience as the Jeffrey Breakenridge Keller Professor of Behavioral Science and Marketing at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business and as the past president of the Society for the Study of Motivation. In order to better help her readers identify and effectively achieve the right goals, she breaks the book into four parts: Choose your Goal; Keep Pulling; Competing Goals; and Social Support. Each of those contains several chapters (“Put a Number on It,” “Incentives Matter”) with end of chapter questions for readers to ask themselves.  Fishbach acknowledges the impact of the pandemic, saying, “Like most people, I worry, get distracted, and struggle to stay motivated.” She maintains a generally positive, coach-like tone, and further notes that “getting anywhere, as well as sustaining the things you cherish in life, requires a great deal of pulling [motivation].” At school, we have certainly worked to address the difficulties our students have faced with maintaining momentum. This issue was echoed in Michael Luca’s recent Wall Street Journal review where he wrote, “had I read GET IT DONE when I was a struggling student, the path to where I am now might have been a lot smoother.” Perhaps Fishbach will also craft a version aimed specifically at young adults, similar to Covey’s adaptation, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens?

Professor Fishbach will be speaking (via Zoom) on Tuesday, January 18 at 7:00pm for an event sponsored by Family Action Network (FAN); I am looking forward to that talk especially after seeing the number of positive comments regarding GET IT DONE from authors like Adam Grant, Carol Dweck, and Angela Duckworth.