The Happiness Files by Arthur C. Brooks

THE HAPPINESS FILES by Arthur C. Brooks offers “Insights on Work and Life” and is based on the popular essays he has written for a weekly column in The Atlantic. Amongst other full-length titles, Brooks wrote From Strength to Strength and he teaches classes on happiness from a scientific perspective (encompassing neuroscience, social psychology, and behavioral economics) at Harvard Business School. Brooks has divided his newest title into sections On Managing Yourself; On Jobs, Money, And Building Your Career; On Communicating and Connecting with Others; On Balancing Work Life and Relationships; and, finally, On How You Define Success. The thirty-three essays are generally five or six pages in length and deal with topics like exhibiting leadership, setting boundaries, promoting value, developing relationships, and establishing purpose and direction. THE HAPPINESS FILES is very well-written, action-oriented, and quite accessible. In completing book reviews, I have been exploring the ideas dealing with well-being and happiness from Brooks and others and writing about them for years. THE HAPPINESS FILES would be a great book to read and discuss as a group, perhaps choosing an essay a week as the focus.

Three Minutes for Mom and Growing Together

It is Mothering Sunday in the UK this weekend and our own Mother’s Day (May 11) is fast approaching so I thought I would comment on a couple of newly published books having to do with parenting. THREE MINUTES FOR MOM by Erin Morrison showcases “365 Days of Empowerment, Encouragement, and Growth for a More Connected Motherhood.” Morrison has a background in psychological counseling and is the creator of The Conscious Mom. In this new text she encourages readers to actively “make three minutes of your day centered in strengthening, loving, and supporting you.” The entry for each numbered day offers a short saying (e.g., It’s Ok to Not Know OR Prepared, Not Perfect), a brief explanation which is a paragraph or two in length, and a quick recap (e.g., “when you run into a parenting moment that feels less than perfect, pause and ask yourself which prepared mother quality will help you best in this situation: open mindedness, compassion, or humility?”). Morrison is correct in that it may only take three minutes a day to read and reflect on an entry, but that regular activity may also help parents to pause and redirect their own energy. Whether it is day five (“add a little magic – if you don’t show your child that life can be magical, who will?”), day six (“the ‘why’ behind whining”) or day one hundred and ninety-three (“love and care for yourself”), Morrison’s writing is very supportive.  She provides an opportunity for quiet reflection and practical results.

GROWING TOGETHER by Carson Meyer contains “Doula Wisdom & Holistic Practices for Pregnancy, Birth & Early Motherhood.”  Meyer is a Los Angeles based childbirth educator and photographer who has created this text in order to share material from her online and virtual classes.  She splits the text into four primary sections, one for each trimester of pregnancy and then one for the first 100 days after birth. Her tone is quite conversational and she offers homeopathic remedies and common sense advice to numerous questions (e.g., How long should each feed be? Do I need to switch breasts each feed? Help! My breasts hurt!). Meyer includes weekly activities such as writing “a love letter to yourself” at week three after birth to help with “treating yourself with the same compassion and patience you would [for] your baby.” While new parents might be too overwhelmed to reach for this text, having read earlier sections might cause them to continue to seek out Meyer’s calm advice (“have a code word with your partner so that you can politely send away any visitor who is overstaying their welcome” or her discussion of elimination communication with their baby). Throughout, she provides charts (e.g., innate knowing vs. modern knowing), introspective questions, and frank discussion (e.g., “those first trimester feels” or “tending to the family nervous system”). GROWING TOGETHER contains recipes, endnotes, and a list of additional resources.

Gentle by Courtney Carver

GENTLE by Courtney Carver is subtitled “Rest More, Stress Less, and Live the Life You Actually Want.” Carver (Soulful Simplicity) stresses self-compassion and self-care as she tries to convey a plan to do just that. She writes about “gentle” as “easing through instead of pushing through,” “creating strength in stillness,” and “putting yourself first.” Her text is divided amongst the three seasons of gentle: Rest (e.g., relaxing, sleep practices, and connecting); Less (e.g., unplug, decluttering, and less regret); and Rise (e.g., cultivating quiet, releasing every worry, and bringing it all together).  Within multiple chapters for each season, Carver offers ideas for tiny steps and one gentle step. That seems doable and Carter’s tone is supportive and non-judgmental. I especially liked her reference to Laura Vanderkam’s comment that “going to bed early is the way grown-ups sleep in.” Carver frequently refers to her own habits and life experience which is also less intimidating. However, I would like to see a print version since some readers could still feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of “to dos.” They will need to remember Carter’s summary: “Be Gentle. Move softly. Go slowly. Celebrate every tiny step. You don't have to push through. Ease through. Be light. Be you.”  

Ageless Aging by Maddy Dychtwald

AGELESS AGING by Maddy Dychtwald and Kate Hanley is from the Mayo Clinic and it focuses on being “A Woman’s Guide to Increasing Healthspan, Brainspan, and Lifespan.” Dychtwald has been writing about age/aging with a particular focus on women for over a decade. She has really gathered key points in one place and offers practical advice in a friendly, conversational tone. She writes, “In each chapter, I've included practical tips, techniques, and hacks that I've categorized according to your level of experience…. [even including] an ‘if you do one thing’ tactic so that you'll know the simplest and most impactful step to get you started.” Sounds great, right? Unfortunately, the Kindle version of this preview was so badly formatted that it was impossible to complete her suggested assignments (like checking off current practice of age accelerants or decelerants  or highlighting changes a reader wants to make). Dychtwald begins by noting differences between chronological aging, psychological aging, and physical aging. Her subsequent suggestions are intended to help battle what she calls the intention/action gap and could be quite useful and motivating to readers. Between five and ten percent of the book is devoted to notes and helpful bibliographic references. Dychtwald says, “Let joy lead the way!” and I do think this could make a wonderful gift, but I would like to see a better formatted print version first.  

Another reviewer has suggested Outlive by Peter Attia which is an Economist and Bloomberg Best Book Of The Year. It is also more readily available through public libraries and bookstores so I will be looking into that title, too. Attia has serves on the editorial board of the journal Aging and is host of The Drive, a popular podcast covering the topics of health, medicine, and longevity.

Sunrise Gratitude By Emily Silva

It’s a new year and the perfect opportunity to practice feeling grateful as this guide suggests. SUNRISE GRATITUDE by Emily Silva was originally published during the height of the COVID pandemic and offers a meditation to start each day of the year: “What a gift it is to be alive! To wake up, and take a breath, to hear the lovely sounds of morning … our senses are coming alive as we awaken each morning.” The reflection prompts are roughly a half dozen sentences in length and Silva, a former corporate trainer and coach, accompanies them with beautiful pictures from nature. This inspiring book and her companion volume, Moonlight Gratitude, seem like a wonderful resource to use oneself or to offer as a meaningful gift.

Stress Resets by Jennifer L. Taitz

STRESS RESETS by Jennifer L. Taitz, a clinical psychologist and an assistant professor at UCLA, has three main sections. The first – called Befriending Stress, Living Better – is rather text heavy, but intended to provide background and a better understanding of topics like regulating emotion, overthinking, and thriving without substances. Many readers will turn quickly to the more specific ideas for “How to Soothe Your Body and Mind in Minutes” that Taitz offers in the second (Stress Resets for Intense Times) and third (Stress Buffers For Building Resilience) sections. The timeframes are different (short-term exercises vs. longer-term habits of mind), but those strategies are each further divided between Mind, Body, and Behavior. Taitz provides a lengthy bibliography (almost fifteen percent of the book is detailed references and resources) so these are not necessarily “new” activities (e.g., breathing exercises, scan your body, laugh more!), but they are organized in a very helpful way. Each of the 75 ideas has a when, how and why section, allowing readers to think more clearly about appropriate timing, execution, and science behind each idea (e.g., why an ice-cold face bath leads to feeling calmer or making your bed contributes to a sense of accomplishment). In fact, Taitz writes that readers should think of STRESS RESETS “as a recipe book for your well-being -- in other words, accessible, easily digestible strategies with clear instructions that you can pick and choose from, depending on your taste and needs.” Have a look at some of her suggestions, ranging from expanding your gaze, or taking a walk outside, to carving out time to worry or committing to three minutes of mindfulness. They are thoughtful, practical tips.  

Sew Mindful Cross Stitch by Sophie Crabb

SEW MINDFUL CROSS STITCH by Sophie Crabb is a wonderful concept – I know plenty of people who choose to sew or knit as a form of relaxation. Crabb, a designer, crafter, and small business owner from Norfolk in the United Kingdom, tackles mental health concerns by writing about her own experiences and offering subtle suggestions (like avoiding the comparison loop). She has designed cross stitch examples with supportive pithy sayings (e.g., self-care isn’t selfish or today is a new day); to get a better idea of her style check out her UK website (the US Esty page has a security warning). The book itself illustrates “22 beginner friendly cross stitch projects to bring you color and calm.” These are intentionally small projects – just right for a beginner and the book’s photos are colorful and appealing. Plus, Sophie shares helpful insights for executing the projects (like what color to use first). The preview of SEW MINDFUL CROSS STITCH that I saw lists supplies (including specific quantities and colors for embroidery thread), but the patterns were indecipherable to me on the Kindle app. The pdf version on NetGalley was significantly improved and there are several projects which would be fun to try. They’d make great gifts, too!  

Diet, Health, and New Cookbooks

I took a quick look at several food-related new books recently; they are from a number of publishers and cover a variety of more niche topics so I am posting them together in case one is of particular interest to you.

That said, who doesn’t love pasta? And AN A-Z OF PASTA by Rachel Roddy provides stories and commentary on 50 types of pasta, with, as the subtitle notes “Recipes for Shapes and Sauces, from Alfabeto to Ziti, and Everything in Between.” Roddy, an award-winning British food writer, says, “The idea is the 50 stories, arranged alphabetically according to the first letter of the shape, are like pieces of a jigsaw…” The relatively few pictures look scrumptious, like the one for baked macaroni with meatballs and eggplant (Maccheroni ‘ncasciati), although I did not see any nutrition information in the preview. In general, the recipes use numerous ingredients so this may work best for more experienced cooks, but some are marked very quick (e.g., butter and parmesan fettuccine) or quick (e.g., Carbonara). In addition to the delicious food, fans of pasta are sure to enjoy the details – like Penne being named for its slanted cut thanks to an 1865 patent on a diagonal cutting machine - revealed in the descriptions. AN A-Z OF PASTA received a starred review from Booklist. 

MIND OVER BATTER by Jack Hazan is subtitled “75 Recipes for Baking as Therapy.” Hazan writes quite a bit about his Syrian Jewish family members and obviously shares numerous favorite recipes, including his own experience making and selling challah. It all sounds delicious, and frankly, I think if I had more patience and somewhat different expectations that I would like this book more. I was honestly hoping for less stress through easier recipes. Pictures are quite colorful and have me thinking about giving Pesto Pull-Apart Bread or Choose-Your-Own-Scone a try. Since these are baked goods, they tend to be on the sweet side and nutritional information is not included. Hazan, a licensed psycho​therapist, also includes information on self-care, mindfulness, and healing exercises. MIND OVER BATTER is a unique cookbook, especially if you enjoy baking. 

EAT TO BEAT YOUR DIET by William W. Li describes how to “Burn Fat, Heal Your Metabolism, and Live Longer.” Li is a physician, scientist, and author of over one hundred scientific publications in leading journals. He outlines a program to improve your metabolism by carefully choosing what you eat and eating less and more slowly at certain times of the day. The text focuses more on the theory of what and when to eat, but Chapter 12 includes a sample meal guide and recipes like Berry Walnut Breakfast Cookies, Artichoke Egg Scramble, or Pasta Salad with Sun-dried Tomatoes and Olives. Unfortunately, the preview did not contain images (always a favorite part of cookbooks) or nutrition information. Addressing a topic of interest to everyone, EAT TO BEAT YOUR DIET appeared on The Wall Street Journal non-fiction best seller list and for those who are interested, this link leads to a short video interview with Dr. Li as shown on Good Morning America. 

THE EVERYTHING ONE POT MEDITERRANEAN COOKBOOK by Peter Minaki offers “200 Fresh and Simple Recipes That Come Together in One Pot.” That is a style of cooking that I appreciate and there are many, many great choices here: Risotto with Shrimp, Mushrooms, and Asparagus; Cod with Raisins; Skillet Lasagna; even making Sun-Dried Tomatoes yourself. Minaki blogs about “Greek food and more” and embraces Greek (e.g., Scallops Saganaki) and other cuisines in his latest book with recipes like Moroccan-Style Chicken with Green Olives and Lemon or Spanish-Style Chickpeas with Cod. THE EVERYTHING ONE POT MEDITERRANEAN COOKBOOK contains sparsely illustrated sections for skillet dishes, sheet pans, Dutch ovens, Slow Cookers, Instant Pot and casseroles. Yummy! Nutritional information is provided and readers will have a hard time deciding what to try first.