Safe by Mark Daley

SAFE by Mark Daley is subtitled “A Memoir of Fatherhood, Foster Care, and the Risks We Take for Family.” I had asked for this preview because I have had students who feel passionately about the foster care system and any related research. It truly is eye-opening to learn more about the traumas involved and to recognize the support that these children (like the students involved with Learning Bridge) need. Mark Daley, the author, is a communications professional with experience in the political sphere and has now turned his attention to activism as a founder of TheFosterParent.com. His book was a bit surprising because it is so personal, very emotional and moving. After four months of marriage, Daley and his husband decided to foster children, with the hopes of eventually adopting. The first few chapters of his book deal with their relationship, marriage, and decision to try fostering. Then, the focus turns to the realities of childcare, especially for infants, and much learning that being a new parent entails. Subsequent sections look at visitation rights, the birth family situation, custody battles, and adoption protocols. In this memoir, Daley employs a conversational tone to share the story that he and Jason experienced, but he also incorporates relevant statistics (e.g., in California about 55 percent of foster children are eventually reunified with their birth parents). Told with emotion and primarily from an adult perspective, SAFE is a heartfelt introduction to the foster care system in California and points to its inadequacies as well as to the importance of a support network for all involved. To the End of June, published roughly a decade ago, is another excellent text on this subject. More recent titles include the coming-of-age memoir Troubled by Rob Henderson and Anne Moody’s analysis which also covers international adoptions titled The Children Money Can Buy. There are also multiple books written for young children to help prompt discussion and hugs. I hope SAFE gets the wide readership it deserves.