HOW TO
KNOW A PERSON by David Brooks is
all about “The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.” In fact, I sent
family members a link several weeks ago to his New York Times article “The Essential Skills for Being Human” where he
writes about this book and his desire to “teach people how to understand
others, how to make them feel respected, valued and understood.” Amongst the reasons
he lists for pursuing this project is one that relates to national security: “Now
we live in wonderfully diverse societies, but our social skills are inadequate
for the divisions that exist. We live in a brutalizing time.” Particularly in
regard to national politics and policy choices, it feels as though we live in
alternate realities and instead of focusing on commonalities and compromise,
much effort is made to emphasize differences and perpetuate stereotypes. Brooks
encourages us to emulate those he calls illuminators, persistently curious and
caring with the ability to make others “feel bigger, respected, lit up.” He
explores skills like the gift of attention and the art of conversation as well
as his own growth, saying “I [now] think the wise person’s essential gift is
tender receptivity.” HOW TO
KNOW A PERSON is worth spending
time in quiet reflection and application.
For more insight, here is a video
produced by the Free Library of Philadelphia:
15:45: “Each person you meet is not a problem to be solved. They are mystery that you will never get to the bottom of.”
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