THE NEW ADOLESCENCE by Christine Carter is subtitled “Raising Happy and Successful Teens in an Age of Anxiety and Distraction.” It seems even more relevant in these days of COVID as we try to navigate uncertainty and more “together” time than usual. Carter knows what she is talking about due to her training as a sociologist, her role as a senior fellow at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, and her practical experience as a Mom of four teenagers. The book is certainly geared towards parents and while it refers to numerous scientific findings, it is written in an accessible manner with bold type throughout for key ideas. I do think that teens may be put off a bit by some of the suggestions (no phone, tablet or computer in your bed does not seem reasonable in times of remote learning) and also with some of the language (e.g., her driving and technology contracts start out “Dear Sweet Child of Ours”). However, the statistics to which she points are certainly significant ones and worthy of discussion. The book itself is divided into three parts, with the first providing a Foundation which provides background and discusses helping teens to set up good systems and supporting them when they miss the mark. In the second section, she discussions Three Core Skills for the Digital Age (i.e., connection, focus (“a twenty-first-century superpower”), and rest. Part three covers talking points for the new sex talk, drinking and drugs, and money. The conclusion provides a useful summary about parenting strategies and tactics to support reconnection for tweens, teens, and college students. There is about twenty pages of source notes and an index. To me, this work further highlights a need for educators to be thinking about how to help teens find meaning and connect, especially if traditional options (like Fall sports or other extra-curricular activities) are limited due to COVID.
DECODING BOYS
by Cara Natterson describes the “New
Science Behind the Subtle Art of Raising Sons.” A pediatrician, Natterson shares a great deal of medical information,
particularly about brain development and effects of testosterone hormone. An
entire chapter discusses how puberty for boys is beginning earlier, too, at
roughly 9 or 10. Another section is titled, “When They Look Like Adults, But
Don’t Think Like Them.” That one begins humorously with stories involving her
own children, but carries some serious messages as do subsequent sections on
pornography, consent, addiction, and aggression. This is uncomfortable reading
at times, but Natterson’s emphasis on listening and communication would
be echoed by Lisa Damour, author of Untangled
and Under Pressure as well as a
recent FAN speaker, who says, “If you're raising a boy, you need this brilliant
book.” The text concludes with an objective,
alphabetical (acne, body odor, etc.) list of body changes that occur as well as
“a relatively brief explanation of the behind-the-scenes biology.” Overall, a
useful resource with a science slant.